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Thinking about the changing landscape within friend relationships and I’d post this piece again.

Friends are the richest blessings we can have.

When we accept a new friend into our lives, we must take them as they are…warts and wonders.

Our friends must be given the freedom to come and go, in and out of our lives as they need.
Yet, when we feel a great need to share a thought, feeling, or time with a friend we should let them know…especially to let them know we care for and love them.

Some friends are like leaves on a tree, and the time comes for them to fall away from our lives and move on to become friends with others. We each leave a part of ourselves with the other.

Other friends are like rocks, here to stay with us through thick and thin…all the days of our lives.

Friendships, long or short-term, should be cherished and tended as the most valuable gift we have in life.

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I wrote this in 2005. Yes it is sad, yet reminds me to be available to others.

A few moments of magic
A special letter
Exciting news
Something special happens
I am excited
A special joy fills me up
I want to share the moments
….in person

Call to a friend
Can we meet for coffee?
Something wonderful to share…
Sorry, can’t…
Call another friend
Can we meet…?
Something wonderful to share…
Sorry, can’t today…
See another friend
Want to share something wonderful…
They are busy with children
Or other people…
Sorry, can we talk later…………

My heart drops
Pain sets in
My spirit cries
I try not to feel sorry for myself
I can barely breathe
The moments disappear
No one to share with…
Then…
Just more moments…
Alone………

Copyright February 5, 2005

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Today I was thinking about the changing landscape within friend relationships and thought of  posting this piece again.

Friends are the richest blessings we can have.

When we accept a new friend into our lives, we must take them as they are…warts and wonders.

Our friends must be given the freedom to come and go, in and out of our lives as they need.
Yet, when we feel a great need to share a thought, feeling, or time with a friend we should let them know…especially to let them know we care for and love them.

Some friends are like leaves on a tree, and the time comes for them to fall away from our lives and move on to become friends with others. We each leave a part of ourselves with the other.

Other friends are like rocks, here to stay with us through thick and thin…all the days of our lives.

Friendships, long or short-term, should be cherished and tended as the most valuable gift we have in life.

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This is a great post by one of my favorite bloggers “teecee” and really spoke to my heart.  Enjoy…

The Ideal Friend!

Posted on March 20, 2012 by

If I had a friend that would be there for me, just when I wanted, that would smile, precisely when I need a smile, that would hug me, the very moment I’ll seek a hug and would speak a word where all that matters is a word, Would I be happier?

If I had a friend that spurs me up to get things done, that offers a hand to ease the stress, that generates ideas to make things swift and that enlightens me on priorities, Would I be more productive?

If I had a friend that who would ensure that I eat the best meals, who would insist that I wear the best cloths, who would verify that I make the best choice and who would ascertain that I strike the best deals, Would I be more fulfilled?

If I had a friend that would show me what counts, that would teach me what matters, that would expose me to the vital and that would involve me in the crucial, Would I be more focused?

If I had a friend that would introduce me to great personalities, that would position me in spheres of influence, that would tell me about decision making and that would spend time with me on leadership issues, Would I be more relevant?

If I had a friend that would dance with me anytime I wanted, plead my case whenever I need representation, rescue me from tight situations and say the words that set me right wherever I’ve veered of track, would I be perfect?

I prefer to be exciting than to be excited, to help than to be helped, to smile than to be smiled at… the list is endless but I’m happier when I’m the reason that change came, I feel more productive when I inspire the motivation that gets things done, I’m more fulfiled when others are happy because of me, I am more focused when my action meets a need rather than just fulfilling an obligation, I consider relevance as having a worthy contribution and not just occupying a position or associating with the leadership and I’m perfect when I’m myself; expressing my thoughts, ideas and concepts without prejudice, compulsion or comparism. I’m unique and free. I better be that friend!

-Nnamonu Tochukwu. Teeceecounsel.

Stop by teecee’s post and leave her a comment  http://teeceecounsel.wordpress.com/2012/03/20/the-ideal-friend/

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The best way I can explain is a piece I wrote some years ago.

Friends are the richest blessings we can have.

When we accept a new friend into our lives, we must take them as they are…warts and wonders.

Our friends must be given the freedom to come and go, in and out of our lives as they need.
Yet, when we feel a great need to share a thought, feeling, or time with a friend we should let them know…especially to let them know we care for and love them.

Some friends are like leaves on a tree, and the time comes for them to fall away from our lives and move on to become friends with others. We each leave a part of ourselves with the other.

Other friends are like rocks, here to stay with us through thick and thin…all the days of our lives.

Friendships, long or short-term, should be cherished and tended as the most valuable gift we have in life.

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Remembering a dear friend I am reposting this, which I wrote for my friend Terri who passed away in 2006…

I didn’t know you well
I didn’t know you long
But, you became a friend
And, you inspired me

Your kindness and caring
Even through your pain
Your strength, courage, and faith
Amazed and inspired me

Your sweet nagging
To keep writing
To finish the next book
Made my heart smile
You inspired me

I miss you Sweet Lady
Yet you are always
A part of me
In my heart
A beautiful memory
My Inspiration Angel

© December 11, 2006

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A story a few years ago about being connected got me thinking. These are my thoughts, observations, and feelings about being connected.

When I was a child in Michigan people came and went in each others homes. Neighbors knew each other, spent time with each other, kept an eye on each others children and it was acceptable to discipline someone else’s child. These days there are rare places where people feel safe leaving their doors unlocked. Most parents don’t want their children corrected by someone else even if it means their safety. Neighbors rarely even know each others names let alone have any conversation or socializing,

Many people, maybe even most, have built up walls, invisible boundaries around themselves even within their friendships. Some people are open to their friends just dropping by to say hello, maybe have a cup of coffee and chat, but those friends never have the time, or more likely don’t take the time for such visits. Everyone is too busy with busy stuff these days to truly nurture their relationships with family and friends. Now people are wrapped up in their own worlds. Mind you, I am not talking about people who I know have REALLY busy lives, especially if they have lots of children. The other problem is, we get so tired and stressed with things we have to deal with in this life that we relish quiet down time.

So, how do we connect at all these days? Who do we connect with…and why? I read a piece where the author talked about connecting, being “connected.” He talked about the human need to be connected, even if only through the internet! I am going to say “Oh yes.”

Isn’t it interesting that I use the word “talk” when referring to an editor’s article about being connected? But isn’t that what it’s about? Connecting is a conversation between people…whether it is speaking with your mouth, or via the written words.

For many people, the internet – emails, instant messaging, blogs, and tweets are the main sources for shut-ins, lonely singles (old and young), people who just want to “be connected” somehow. It is also huge among those who are married. Many parents connect with other parents about issues with children, finances, entertainment, house remodeling, cooking, etc. The list goes on and on.

I can only truly speak for myself here, my thoughts and feelings about the desire to be connected.

I love to socialize, to communicate with others, to be connected. However, I am also joyful in drawing wonderful people into my life, and having the ability to let go of anyone who is negative, who has any tendency to make me feel less than joyful. I have been truly blessed, especially in the last few years to have many joyful spirits come into my life…whether temporarily or on a more permanent basis.

The greatest joy of each city I have lived in during my life, so far, are the relationships I’ve made. Even though I don’t live in those cities any longer, the friendships have held. Some of the communications may be scattered throughout the year, and a few may only be at Christmas and birthdays with updates on our lives…but they remain true.

Thank God for those who created the internet, for email, which allows friends, family, and acquaintances to keep in touch and up-to-date with each other.

My computer does not shout “you’ve got mail,” but you can be sure I love the sound it does make when one arrives in my IN box. Sad part of this is that we communicate with our nearby friends more by email that getting up off our behinds and walking down the street, or take a drive to meet each other someplace to have a face to face conversation. Yet, at least through the technology of our cell phones and computers it helps us to feel we are not alone. I think that is why so many people are constantly on their cell phones, so they can feel connected.

I found a small city in South Carolina, which is a perfect day trip from where I live, and not only does it have a beautiful small town feel to its downtown area, with a river running through it and a park at the river below the falls, but it has the consistently friendliest people to strangers I have ever met. It is a place I can go to walk, sit by the river and its little water fall, stop to visit a few friends I’ve made, get a coffee or bite to eat, be at peace and whether in conversation with someone or not I feel connected.

The greatest constant unconditional connection I do have is my relationship with God. He is always there to listen and he connects with me all day, everyday, through a variety of ways…the refreshing raindrops that touch me when it rains, the sun warming me and giving me light, a smile from someone, the sound of the birds singing, a waterfall, and so much more.

Being connected is important to all of us…may you all be blessed with an open heart, to being truly connected.

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I am reposting this piece, and will repost more about friendships/relationships as I remember my friend Smita who passed away on Friday, June 10, 2011.

Friends are the richest blessings we can have.
When we accept a new friend into our lives, we must take them as they are…warts and wonders.
Our friends must be given the freedom to come and go in and out of our lives, as they see fit for themselves.
Yet, when we feel a great need to share a thought, feeling, or time with a friend we should let them know…especially to let them know we care for

and love them.
Some friends are like leaves on a tree, and the time comes for them to fall away from our lives and move on to become friends with others. We each leave a part of ourselves with the other.
Other friends are like rocks, here to stay with us through thick and thin…all the days of our lives.
Friendships, long or short-term, should be cherished and tended as the most valuable gift we have in life.

September 2003

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Last night, after 5 years, finally…

We first met August 2002 when she joined the marketing group where I was working. We connected quickly and became friends. She was a great supporter of me when I got word that a book I wrote was going to be published. In 2005 we both left the company we worked for; she early in the year and me in August.

I had decided to move to Napa, California and Deborah and her husband were two of several friends who had a going away dinner for me at Bucca Di Beppo. That was a really fun night.

Although I thought I would be staying in California, a few months later I had to return to Georgia. Sometime in 2006 Deborah invited me to dinner at her home. She and hubby and moved to their new home while I was in California. It was a great evening sharing dinner with her and her hubby in their lovely home.

The first couple years we would occasionally keep in touch via email. Then time passed by. Once in a while I would call her and leave a voicemail message, she would call me back and leave a message; and so a couple of messages back and forth would be left, but never a connection.

Recently I found her on LinkedIn and invited her to join my network, including a personal message. She connected and that began our return to a connection…first by various emails. We tried a few times to meet for dinner, but circumstances would require postponing and picking another date to try to meet up.

Last night, after five years we met for dinner and catch-up session. It was almost as if those years apart did not exist. We talked for about an hour over a glass of wine before ordering our dinner. It was another couple of hours before we finally had to say goodnight and in hopes of seeing each other again…much sooner than five years 

A wonderful evening reconnecting with a missed friend.

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A long time ago I realized there were occasions when something did more than put a smile on my face. A person’s words or action, or something, was so special that it made me smile deep down inside. One time I felt as if I could SEE my heart smiling.

~Here are my SPECIAL HEART SMILES~

I never had children of my own, but have been blessed with the joy of being close to children of friends.

Years ago while living in Ireland, a married couple a few doors down who become good friends had a new baby boy, their third child. A few days after mommy and baby Alan came home from the hospital I got to care for him while the family went to church. He was a good baby and a joy for me to love and care for him. They had me take care of him many times after that. Occasionally they would have a relative or someone else babysit him, but he was very fussy when with anyone else. So his Mom said she only felt comfortable with me taking care of him as he was always happy being with me 🙂 From the very beginning I felt a special bond with him. Sometimes when I would hold him in my arms he would look at me as if he could see into my soul. He sure made my HEART SMILE.

About 14 years ago I met a young couple who had a cute as a button baby girl, six months old. We became good friend and I would get to babysit for baby Eve. When she was about 2 years old an adorable baby boy was born. Gavin was born with Downs Syndrome. Having cared for children with Down’s Syndrome in the past, and love them dearly, I immediately took to Gavin. When his parent asked if I would “consider” being his Godmother, my heart cried with joyful HEART SMILES. I told them I did not need to think about it, that I would be honored to be his Godmother. Three more children later…Ian, Mary Rose, and Hannah…a great many times caring for all of them has been a gift for they are such a joy. When they see me, as their faces light up and they joyfully shout “Miss Ann” and come to lavish me with hugs my HEART not only SMILES, but jumps for joy.

I would love to know what and/or who makes your HEART SMILE.

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